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Switches Kreuzberg, Berlin

Berlin, switch, and I leave town for that whole week

Posted as the_week_i_leave_town

Looking for
someone who also finds the annual chaos unbearable
Experience
Eight years, started as a bottom, ended up in the middle.
Around
Kreuzberg, Berlin

Once a year the entire city spends a week behaving badly in the street, and every year I go and stay with my sister in the countryside until it is over. That is the most reliable information about my personality I can give you.

Thirty two, Berlin, switch. I started out bottoming and drifted towards the middle over about eight years, and the honest answer now is that it depends entirely on the person. With some people I would not want to top at all. With others I cannot imagine anything else.

I am looking for one person to work that out with over time, rather than a series of evenings with strangers. I have done the series of evenings. It was fine and I retain very little of it.

Things I like: a long slow build, being talked to constantly during, rope in either direction, and afterwards sitting on a floor eating something ridiculous. Things I do not: heavy pain, anything with an audience, anyone who plans a scene like a project schedule, which I accept is a contradictory thing to say in this country.

Berlin is blunter than its reputation and more private than people expect. Somebody here will state their limits in a second message and still not say where they live. I am like that too, so your caution will not offend me. I am bad at replying quickly and good at replying properly. Four days is normal for me and is not itself a message.

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