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Submissives the far end of Neukölln, Berlin

Berlin, submissive, everything good is forty minutes away

Posted as forty_minutes_away

Looking for
someone who does not treat crossing the city as a favour
Experience
Six years, all of it with people I had to travel to.
Around
the far end of Neukölln, Berlin

Living out where I do means the nearest anything is forty minutes away in three different directions, and I have spent six years crossing this city to be somebody's occasional evening. I would like to stop doing that.

Thirty three, submissive, I work in a warehouse office out past the ring. I share a flat with two other people and the walls are thin, which is a sentence that has ended more of these conversations than anything I have ever said about limits, so it goes near the top.

What I want is somebody who treats a Wednesday as possible. Not somebody on the far side of the city who can manage one Saturday in six. I am open about nearly everything else and immovable about that.

I like structure more than pain, although pain is welcome. Rules that operate during the week. Being given something to do rather than only being done to. I am practical and organised and I would like that to be put to use. I do not need anything grand. A standing evening, some contact in between, an arrangement we both take seriously. That is genuinely it.

What I do not want: another thing that becomes a monthly visit and then nothing. Somebody who wants me to move nearer in, which I cannot do because the rent out here is the only reason I can afford to live at all. Or the conversation where I am told my end of the city has nobody in it, which I know, I live here, that is the entire premise of this post.

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