Berlin, forty eight, submissive, and yes I am tidy
Posted as obsessively_tidy
- Looking for
- someone who can put an obsessive tidiness to good use
- Experience
- Seven years, one long arrangement, ended by a job move.
- Around
- the west of the city, Berlin
Every stereotype about the sort of man who cleans a shared stairwell is true of me. I do mine on my week without being asked, and the week of the man on the second floor as well, because he does not. I keep a spreadsheet for the household budget. I once spent an entire evening arguing about the correct way to fold a fitted sheet, and I was right.
Forty eight, engineer, out in the west of Berlin. Submissive for seven years, one arrangement covering four of them, which ended when she took a job in another country and neither of us wanted the long distance version.
What I want is service, and specifically I want the tidiness and the ordering and the lists to be for somebody, rather than just a character defect. Being held to a standard higher than my own would be the whole point. I have never in my life been told my work was not good enough and I would find it extremely interesting.
Beyond that: discipline, structure, and rules with consequences that are actually applied, because inconsistent consequences drive me quietly mad. Not much interested in pain for its own sake, though I will accept it as a consequence, which I understand is a distinction that matters.
Divorced, no children, a flat that is far too tidy and a workshop in the cellar. I am not in a hurry. Not looking to relocate. Not looking for anything that would surprise my neighbours, who see everything. And not looking for a woman who wants an equal partner in a household, because I have been that and I now know what I actually want.