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Submissives the far west of the city, Berlin

Married, open, discreet, Berlin, submissive man, evenings only

Posted as ring_commuter

Looking for
someone comfortable with a man whose wife knows and approves
Experience
Fourteen years, most of it inside my marriage.
Around
the far west of the city, Berlin

My wife knows. My wife agreed. My wife is not interested in taking part and would rather not meet anybody. All three of those facts seem to be difficult for people on this board, in three different ways.

Forty three, I live out past the western edge of Berlin and commute in, which means I am in the city on weekday evenings anyway and almost never at weekends. That is the practical shape of me and it will not be changing.

Submissive, fourteen years, most of it with my wife until we both admitted she was doing it for me rather than for herself. We renegotiated instead of ending, which I still think was the right call. She reads what I write. She has a veto and has used it twice.

What I am looking for is a dominant woman who wants something ongoing and contained. Once a fortnight would be plenty. I like discipline with a reason behind it, rules that follow me home, and being held to something over time rather than one evening of intensity.

Discretion is not optional for me. I am not hiding from my wife, I am hiding from my employer and a small commuter town where everybody knows which train you take. I am not looking for anybody who wants to be the secret. I am not looking for a woman who feels she is competing with my marriage, because she is not and I would handle that badly. And I cannot travel far or stay overnight.

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