Berlin, dominant woman, service arrangement, no sex in it
Posted as service_not_sex
- Looking for
- a submissive who wants to be useful and does not want more
- Experience
- Seven years, two service submissives, both long.
- Around
- the west of the city, Berlin
I want a service submissive and I do not want a sexual relationship. Both of my previous arrangements worked on exactly that basis and both lasted years, so I know it is possible even though this board tends to assume otherwise.
Thirty five, Berlin, I run a small team at work and I have no interest in bringing that dynamic home. What I want at home is different and more absolute. Domestic work, errands, the administration of a life, done to a standard I set and check. Kneeling and waiting. Being addressed properly. Silence while I am working.
I am firm and I am not cruel. I do not shout. I correct once, clearly, and I expect that to be enough. I use denial and structure and very little pain, mostly because I find it a distraction rather than because I object to it.
Sex is not part of this. If you can only imagine service as foreplay you will be frustrated and I will be annoyed, and neither of us needs that. There is no version where this becomes a relationship in six months, and I say so now so that nobody can claim later to have misread me.
Practical things. I would want to meet three or four times before anything begins. I would want to know about your work, your commitments and anyone who would be affected. And I would want a trial month with an easy exit for both of us, which is the part people skip and then regret.