Berlin, both of us over fifty, and very private about it
Posted as twenty_quiet_years
- Looking for
- one other couple, slowly, with discretion on both sides
- Experience
- Married twenty nine years, in this quietly for twenty of them.
- Around
- the west of the city, Berlin
We have never written anything like this before and we have been discussing whether to for about three years. That should tell you the pace at which we work.
Both of us are past fifty. We have lived in the same building on the same street for thirty years, where everybody knows everybody and always has, and we have kept this entirely to ourselves for twenty of them. Not out of shame. Out of a completely reasonable assessment of what would otherwise happen.
He leads. She agreed to it long before either of us knew there was a word for any of it, and the vocabulary arrived years after the arrangement did, which we understand is common for people our age.
What we are looking for is one other couple, anywhere in this city, for conversation. We would want to go slowly, meet somewhere that is neither of our districts, and be careful for a while. If that sounds excessively cautious, we would gently suggest you have not lived on one street for thirty years.
We are not looking for play with anybody else. We are not looking to be introduced to a wider circle. We are looking for two people we could be honest with, which after twenty years feels overdue. If it never went beyond a meal and a walk, that would still be more than we have had. We would rather have one careful friendship than be known to a dozen people.