Married nineteen years, Berlin, looking for another couple to know
Posted as two_bikes
- Looking for
- another couple for friendship first and play only if it fits
- Experience
- Nineteen years married, about twelve of them kinky.
- Around
- Prenzlauer Berg, Berlin
We have been doing this at home for twelve years and have never once talked to another couple about it, which by now feels ridiculous. We are both in our fifties. We would like some friends.
That is genuinely the request. Not a swap, not a fourth, not an arrangement. Two people who also do this, who we could have dinner with and speak plainly in front of, and who might eventually take us along to something rather than us never quite going.
For context: he leads, she does not, and it has been that way since a conversation on a holiday that neither of us planned. We do rope and discipline and a routine of small rules that has quietly run our marriage for a decade. It works, we are not fixing anything, and we are not looking to open anything up. If play with another couple happens at some point we are not closed to it, but it would be a long way down the line and we will not pretend otherwise to collect more replies.
Berlin, both working, grown children who do not know and will not. Discretion matters to us in an ordinary way rather than a paranoid one.
We would want to meet as four people, in the evening, somewhere normal, and talk about anything at all. If it turns out we do not click we will say so warmly and mean it. That seems to be the part people find hardest and we would rather do it properly.