Berlin couple, both switches, want play friends not a triad
Posted as two_doors_down
- Looking for
- people to play with who are not looking to be in our relationship
- Experience
- Together six years, both of us switching, both of us stubborn.
- Around
- Neukölln, Berlin
We are both switches, which in practice means our flat contains a permanent low level argument about whose turn it is, and it has become obvious that what we need is other people to play with rather than a referee.
Both mid thirties, together six years, Berlin. We are not opening our relationship romantically and we are not looking for a third to love. We are looking for individuals or a couple to play with, occasionally, on clear terms, and then to go home from.
Between us we do rope, impact and a fair amount of psychological work. She is better at rope than I am and I am better at reading somebody than she is. We are both fine with playing separately provided the other knows in advance, a rule we arrived at after getting it wrong once.
What we would want from you: honesty about your situation, an ability to talk about what happened afterwards, and no interest in becoming a secret from either of us. We do not keep things from each other and we would be a bad place to bring somebody who wants that.
We would meet as a group first, in public, with nothing planned. We would rather spend two evenings talking than have one good night with a person we then avoid. Not for anyone who wants to make one of us choose. Not for anyone who thinks a couple is a package in which the man is a formality. That is our most common message and it is exhausting.