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Switches the Jewellery Quarter, Birmingham

Almost none of what I want is physical, and that is not a limitation

Posted as none_of_it_physical

Looking for
somebody who understands that the words are the whole point
Experience
Twelve years, and I could count the physical hours on both hands.
Around
the Jewellery Quarter, Birmingham

In twelve years I have spent hundreds of hours inside dynamics and very few of them involved anybody being touched. What I want happens in language: instruction, correction, permission, the particular weight of somebody telling you exactly what they expect of you. Take the words away and there is nothing there for me at all.

Forty two, the Jewellery Quarter, and equally interested in both ends of it.

This gets misread in two directions. Some people assume I mean an arrangement conducted on a screen, which it is not, because tone and pauses do not survive being typed and the pauses are half of it. Others assume it is a polite substitute for something I am too shy to write down, and it is not that either. It is simply that for me the interesting part has always been what is said.

Day to day it looks like standing expectations, conversations at agreed times, and a great deal of care taken over how things are phrased. When I am leading, I write things down. When I am not, I very much like being made to.

Not looking for anybody hoping to gradually broaden my interests. And not looking to be told that I would change my mind in the right hands, which is the single most common reply this post attracts.

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