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Switches Moseley, Birmingham

I think I am a switch and I have absolutely no evidence for that

Posted as no_evidence_whatsoever

Looking for
somebody experienced and patient enough to find out with me
Experience
None. A great deal of thinking and one conversation that went nowhere.
Around
Moseley, Birmingham

Everything I believe about myself here is theoretical. I have read enough to know what the categories are, and when I read about leading I recognise something, and when I read about the other side I recognise something as well, and I have never once tested either of those recognitions against an actual person.

Twenty five, Moseley, sharing a house with three others, first proper job, no money and a great deal of curiosity.

I am being this blunt because I have noticed that new people on here tend to write as though they are certain and then presumably have to walk it back later. I would rather start from what I actually know, which is very little. It is entirely possible that I try one side and find it does nothing for me whatsoever.

So I want somebody experienced who is comfortable with that uncertainty and will not feel misled if the answer turns out to be simpler than switch. Slow is fine. Nothing happening at all for a while, while we talk, is also fine.

Not looking for somebody who wants to be the one who finds out what I am, if that distinction makes sense. There is a version of this where I become an interesting experiment and I would like to avoid it. And not looking for anybody who is also completely new, because two of us guessing is not a plan, it is a hazard.

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