Rules are restful, and I would like somebody to write me some
Posted as rules_are_restful
- Looking for
- a dominant who is precise, literal, and does not communicate in hints
- Experience
- Five years, one dynamic of three, ended when she emigrated.
- Around
- the Jewellery Quarter, Birmingham
Most of my day goes on working out what people actually meant, which is tiring in a way that is difficult to describe to somebody who does not have to do it. A rule is the opposite of that. A rule is a person telling me exactly what they want, in words, and then I can simply do it and know that I have.
Twenty seven, autistic, submissive, the Jewellery Quarter, five years in and three of those with one person who understood all of this immediately and then moved to another country.
What I need from a dominant is precision. Say the thing. If something is wrong, tell me it is wrong and tell me what the correct version would have been. Do not go quiet and expect me to work it out, because I will notice that something has changed and then spend two days building six theories about it, none of which will be right.
I am reliable to a degree people find funny. Set a standing expectation and I will meet it every single time without being reminded, including on the days when I feel dreadful, and I will not sulk about it afterwards.
Sensory things matter and I will list them early rather than discover them badly. Not looking for anybody who thinks being told what to do is a small thing I should grow out of. Not looking for humiliation of any kind. And not looking for a dominant whose style is mostly implication, because we would both find that miserable within a month.