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Dominants the mid-cities, Dallas

Every five years a stranger interviews my neighbours about me, so no, nothing online

Posted as five_year_interview

Looking for
a submissive for whom absolute privacy is a relief rather than a burden
Experience
Seventeen years, two dynamics, both of them entirely undocumented.
Around
the mid-cities, Dallas

Every five years my clearance comes up for renewal and an investigator talks to people who know me. Neighbours. Old colleagues. Whoever they feel like. It is a normal part of my working life out here and it has been for a long time, and it has shaped how I do everything else.

Forty, mid-cities, dominant, seventeen years. What it means: nothing written anywhere that connects to my name, no photographs of me in anyone's possession, no accounts, no trail. My two long dynamics existed in person and on the phone and essentially nowhere else, and neither of them found it a problem after the first month.

I want to be honest that this is a real ask. You are being asked to build something significant with a person who will always be careful, and some people find that quietly insulting after a while even when they understand the reason.

What I offer inside it is a great deal of attention. I plan, I remember things, I am consistent to the point of being predictable. What I want is a long structured dynamic with regular contact, service, protocol, and a submissive who is self directed enough to run their own life without me managing it.

I am not married. I am not hiding a second family. It is genuinely just the job, and the job is not going anywhere for another decade. Not looking for anyone who will test the rules to see whether they are serious. Not looking for someone who needs to tell one friend. One friend is how everything gets out.

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