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Submissives uptown, Dallas

Three weeks a quarter I vanish, and the other nine I am here

Posted as quarter_end_blackout

Looking for
someone who can read a fiscal calendar without sighing at it
Experience
Six years, two dynamics, both damaged by the same three weeks.
Around
uptown, Dallas

Close week and the fortnight in front of it take me out of circulation four times a year, and they do it on dates that are published a year in advance, which means there is no excuse for anybody being surprised by them.

Two people have been caught out by them anyway. Both times the pattern was identical: fine for a couple of months, then a quarter turned over, I disappeared into work for three weeks, and the tone of the messages when I came back had changed. Neither of them said it was the reason. It was the reason.

Thirty eight, uptown, submissive, six years. I work in finance for a company you would recognise and I am not going to say which. My week outside those stretches is genuinely open and I am one of the most available people on this board for nine months of the year.

What I want is a dynamic with rules that can go dormant and then wake up. Something I can carry into a bad fortnight in a small way, a standing instruction, a thing I do every night whatever else happened, and then a proper resumption afterwards. I have never had that. Both times we tried to keep the full thing running and it broke.

I am not interested in impact. I am interested in being held to something. Being told the standard and then being asked, honestly, whether I met it. Not looking for anyone who wants constant contact. Not looking for a person who thinks a job is an excuse rather than a fact.

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