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Submissives uptown, Dallas

Three weeks of my year are unrecognisable and they move without warning

Posted as trial_calendar

Looking for
somebody with a high tolerance for a cancelled Thursday
Experience
Five years, one dynamic, ended over a fortnight of cancellations.
Around
uptown, Dallas

Trial work does not respect a calendar. A date gets set, everything reorganises around it, and then it moves twice and takes a month of evenings with it. I cannot predict this more than about a week out and I have given up trying.

Thirty five, uptown, submissive, five years. My one real dynamic ended in a fortnight where I cancelled four times in a row, and honestly I would have ended it too. She was patient for eleven months and then she was not, and I have never blamed her for the exact day the patience ran out.

So I am posting for the sort of person who can be relaxed about it. Somebody who has their own full life, who does not need me to be the fixed point in their week, and who will not read a cancellation as a message.

What I would like inside that is something that does not depend on being in the same room. Standing instructions. A daily thing. A message I send at the same time every night whatever else has happened, so that even in a bad month there is a thread neither of us has dropped.

I am good company and quite funny when I am not exhausted, which is currently about half the time. Not looking for anything that requires a regular weekly slot, because I will fail at it. Not looking for someone who will keep score of the cancellations, which I will already be doing on your behalf.

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