Somebody at work recognised a photo of my hands, so no photographs at all
Posted as reverse_image_searched
- Looking for
- a dominant who does not need to see me before agreeing to meet me
- Experience
- Five years, three dynamics, one very bad ending involving a screenshot.
- Around
- uptown, Dallas
A cropped picture with no face in it went round a group chat at my old company two years ago and somebody worked out it was me from a ring and a watch. That is not a story I tell for sympathy. I tell it because it is the reason my answer to the photograph question is no, permanently, and not a no I will soften once I trust you.
Thirty one, uptown, submissive, five years in. The dynamic I was in at the time did not survive it and neither did the job, though the job was on its way out anyway.
I know what this costs me on a board like this. I watch conversations end at exactly the same point every time. I have decided I would rather have four conversations that get past it than forty that do not.
What I will do instead is meet early. Somewhere public, in daylight, within the first week or two, because I would rather you had a real impression of me than a picture. I am not hiding a wife or a body I am ashamed of. I am hiding from a specific thing that already happened once.
What I want is a long dynamic with a lot of protocol in it and very little theatre. I like being corrected. I like knowing where the line is and being told when I am close to it. Not looking for anyone who negotiates the photograph thing. Not looking for someone who will send me theirs and then wait, which is a kind of pressure and I recognise it.