Nothing visible below the collar, and I am tired of arguing about it
Posted as short_sleeves_all_year
- Looking for
- someone who accepts a hard limit as a limit the first time
- Experience
- Seven years, four dynamics, three of them tested this rule.
- Around
- the east side, Dallas
It is a hundred degrees here for four months a year. I wear short sleeves to work like everybody else. That makes the no visible marks rule a practical fact about my life and not a nervous preference I will relax once I feel safe.
Three of my four dynamics have tried to renegotiate it anyway, usually around month three, usually framed as trust. It is not about trust. It is about standing in a fluorescent room at eight in the morning next to a woman who has known me for nine years.
Thirty three, east side, submissive, seven years. What I do want is heavy on the structure and light on the equipment. Rules, correction, protocol, an actual standard I am held to. Some impact is fine where it does not show, and I am not squeamish, and I am not asking for the whole thing to be gentle.
I have a normal job in a normal office and I intend to keep it. My colleagues are decent people who would be nothing but kind about it and I still do not want the conversation. I am blunt in writing and much softer in person, which people find confusing. I will tell you exactly what I think and then apologise for the tone.
Not looking for anyone who says a limit is a starting position. Not looking for someone who wants to leave something on purpose so I have to explain it, which is a specific fantasy I have now heard described twice and want no part of.