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Submissives the harbour side, Hamburg

Twenty four, in a trade, and tired of being told to come back later

Posted as apprentice_hands

Looking for
somebody who will judge me on how I behave rather than my age
Experience
Two years, mostly conversation, one short dynamic that fizzled.
Around
the harbour side, Hamburg

Three people have told me to come back when I am thirty. One of them was kind about it and two were not. I understand the reasoning and I still think it is lazy, because the thing that makes somebody a bad partner at twenty four is not the number.

I am an apprentice in a metal trade down by the water and I qualify next year. My hands are wrecked, I am up at half five, and I am asleep early on weeknights, which makes me the least glamorous twenty four year old on this board by a distance.

What I want is a long dynamic with somebody experienced. Not a teacher exactly. Somebody who has a way of doing things and will hold me to it, and who does not need me to be impressed by them every week. I learn by being shown once and then corrected, which is how I learn everything else, and it works.

I have done two years of talking and one short thing that ended when he stopped replying. So my actual experience is thin and I am not going to dress it up.

Not looking for anyone who wants to be called by a title in public. Not looking to be someone's first attempt at leading, because I would rather learn from a person who already knows. And not looking for anybody who finds my age the interesting part, which I can usually spot inside two messages.

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