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Switches the east of the city, Hamburg

What I want is silence and no light, and rope bores me

Posted as dark_and_quiet

Looking for
somebody as interested in sensory quiet as everyone else is in rope
Experience
Eight years, both sides, narrow and deliberate.
Around
the east of the city, Hamburg

Take away sight and sound and I go somewhere it takes me a day to come back from. That is the entire content of my interest in this and I have found perhaps three other people who wanted the same thing.

Thirty six, switch, east of the city, eight years. It is the same interest on both sides: I want to build that state for somebody, or be put into it, and everything else is scaffolding I tolerate.

What it looks like in practice is unglamorous. A dark room. Ear protection. A very long stretch in which almost nothing happens, which asks a lot of patience from whoever is not inside it and which is a poor spectator experience. A great deal of careful checking, because it is easy to lose track of a person who cannot see or hear you.

Rope I find dull. Impact does very little for me. I am not disparaging either, they are simply not mine, and I have spent years being politely steered toward them because they are what a room does. I am steady, I plan carefully, and I have a written way of doing the checking that I would want to talk through with anybody before we started.

Not looking for someone who wants this as one item in a varied evening. Not looking for a person who would find hours of stillness boring, which is a reasonable thing to find boring. Not looking for anything in a crowded space, which defeats the point of all of it.

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