Friends for a year first, and I do mean a year
Posted as friends_first_year
- Looking for
- a friendship that might, much later, become something else
- Experience
- Sixteen years, four dynamics, the good ones all began as friendships.
- Around
- Altona, Hamburg
Every arrangement I have had that was worth anything started as a friendship that ran at least a year before either of us said a word about the rest of it. Every one that started the other way round was finished inside four months. Four for four, both directions. At some point a person has to believe their own evidence.
Forty five, switch, Altona, sixteen years in. So I am posting for something that will look, for a long time, like nothing at all. Meeting for a walk. Arguing about a film. Knowing what is happening in each other's week. And then, possibly, at some point neither of us has scheduled, the other conversation.
I understand this is a strange thing to want from a personals board, and that it asks somebody to put in an enormous amount on a maybe. Two things in my defence. A friendship is worth having in itself and I am not offering it as a waiting room. And if after a year neither of us wants anything more, I will have gained a friend, which at forty five is harder to come by than the other thing.
I lead and follow about equally and I have no strong sense of which way this would eventually go.
Not looking for anyone who will treat this as a technique for being patient. Not looking for a person who needs it defined now. Not looking to be somebody's quiet option while they see other people, which is fine in itself and is not what I am describing.