Sober eight years, and almost everything social here happens over a drink
Posted as eight_years_dry
- Looking for
- a submissive who does not need an evening to start in a bar
- Experience
- Twenty years, four dynamics, two of them before I stopped drinking.
- Around
- Eimsbüttel, Hamburg
Every first meeting anybody has ever proposed to me has been over a drink. I understand why. It is what people do, it takes the edge off, and I did it for years myself with considerable enthusiasm. I stopped eight years ago and I am not starting again.
Forty nine, dominant, Eimsbüttel, twenty years in this. The first half of that was with a drink in my hand and I was, on reflection, a good deal worse at it than I believed at the time. Being the person who decides what happens to somebody else is not a thing to do while slightly gone.
What that means practically: I will meet you in the morning or the afternoon, or in the evening somewhere that is not built around a bar, and I do not mind at all if you drink in front of me. I am not fragile about it. I simply will not build a private life around rooms I would rather not be in.
What I want is a long dynamic. Structure, service, rules, correction that is spoken. Two evenings a week and a standing arrangement. No interest in events and none in being known.
Not looking for a drinking partner. Not looking for someone in early recovery, because I have tried that and I was neither use nor ornament. Not looking to be admired for it, which is a strange thing that happens and which I find embarrassing.