I plan a working harbour for a living and yes, it shows
Posted as the_berth_plan
- Looking for
- a submissive who finds a well made plan reassuring rather than cold
- Experience
- Twelve years, three dynamics, two of them long.
- Around
- the harbour side, Hamburg
My job is deciding what arrives where and in what order, days before it happens, with a hundred things that could change. I am told my private life has the same texture. It is meant as a criticism and I have decided to accept it as a description.
Forty one, dominant, harbour side, twelve years in. What that means in practice is that I will know what we are doing on Thursday, I will have thought about the order of it, and I will have a second version in my head in case the first one stops making sense.
People assume that is cold. It is the opposite. The reason I plan is so that the person with me does not have to hold anything at all. The deciding happens in advance and in my head, and then the evening itself can be unhurried, because nothing in it is being improvised.
What I want is a long dynamic. Service and protocol more than anything else, standing rules, and a submissive who reports honestly rather than managing me by saying the version she thinks I want. I am not theatrical and I have never raised my voice at anybody.
I am poor at spontaneity and I am not going to improve. If being surprised is what you want, I will disappoint you by roughly the fourth week. Not looking for anyone who wants to negotiate everything again each time. Not looking for someone who cannot say no to me, which is useless to both of us. Not looking for anything that only exists at weekends.