Twenty six, dominant, and half of you think I am making it up
Posted as too_young_to_be_this
- Looking for
- a submissive willing to judge me on how I actually behave
- Experience
- Four years, two dynamics, one of them two years long.
- Around
- St Pauli side, Hamburg
The most common reply I get is a polite version of the suggestion that I am too young to know what I am doing. The second most common comes from people who assume a dominant of twenty six must be aggressive, and who write as though testing whether I will bite.
I am twenty six. I have been doing this four years and one of those dynamics ran two years and ended well. That is not a long career and I am not claiming otherwise. It is also not nothing, and the number of years somebody has been doing a thing has never been a reliable guide to whether they do it well.
What I actually am: quiet, slow, and quite boring about negotiation. I ask a great deal before anything happens. I write clearly. I do not perform, and I have noticed that performing is precisely what people my age are expected to do here.
I want a long dynamic with structure in it. Service, rules, a set evening, correction that is spoken. I have no interest in heavy impact and never have. I work in a technical job with regular hours and I live alone in a small flat, so I can host.
Not looking for somebody who wants to teach me, which sounds generous and has twice turned out to mean something else. Not looking for anyone who needs a dominant to be older by definition. Not looking to prove anything inside a first conversation.