We are both submissive and we want separate dynamics with one person
Posted as separately_same_person
- Looking for
- a dominant willing to run two arrangements under one roof
- Experience
- Nine years together, six of them in this, two shared arrangements.
- Around
- Altona, Hamburg
The thing we want is slightly unusual and we have learned to explain it immediately. We are both submissive. We do not want a joint dynamic. We want one dominant who has a separate arrangement with each of us, in the same household, with different rules for each of us.
Twenty nine and thirty one, Altona, together nine years. We have done the joint version twice and both times it flattened us into a single unit. Decisions were made about the couple. Correction was addressed to the couple. And we are extremely different people who want different things, and neither of us got them.
So: separate agreements, separately negotiated, with no requirement that either of us knows everything about the other's. Obviously we live together and there is a limit to how private anything can be, and we have talked at length about how to handle that limit.
We know this is a lot to ask of one person and that it is more work rather than less. It would need somebody organised and quite firm about their own boundaries, because it would be easy for it to go lopsided without anybody intending it. We are looking for a dominant of any gender, for something long, at whatever frequency works.
Not looking for a couple. Not looking for anyone who wants a joint arrangement and assumes we will come round. Not looking for a person who would prefer one of us and take the other as part of the deal, which happened once and was miserable for all three of us.