Two years here and we still know nobody, which we are told is normal
Posted as two_winters_no_friends
- Looking for
- anybody at all, really, before we start thinking about anything else
- Experience
- Eight years together, five in this, all of it somewhere else.
- Around
- St Pauli side, Hamburg
We came up here from the south two years ago for a job and we have made precisely one friend, who is also from the south. Everybody has been perfectly pleasant. Nobody has ever suggested a second time. We are told repeatedly that this is simply how it works here and that in about five years we will have a circle for life.
Thirty seven and thirty nine, St Pauli side, together eight years, five of them with this openly in our marriage. Where we came from we had a group of eight or nine couples we saw constantly, and losing that has been much harder than losing the weather.
So this post is mostly an application for company. Couples, single people, anybody. We would like to be invited to things. We would like to invite people to things, which we have attempted twice with an alarming lack of success.
He is submissive, she leads, and neither of us wants to change that or add anybody to it. If a connection came out of knowing people, we would think about it then and not before. We cook a great deal, we host well, and we have a flat that is far too big for two people because we did not understand the rents here when we arrived.
Not looking for a third. Not looking for anyone who will be very kind to us for exactly one evening. Not looking to be told to give it five years, which we have heard, and which is not a plan.