I have the space and the time, and I am offering neither as rescue
Posted as spare_room_empty
- Looking for
- a submissive with a settled life who wants a serious arrangement
- Experience
- Eighteen years, two long arrangements, one of eleven years.
- Around
- Altona, Hamburg
I live alone in a large old flat in Altona and I have been in it nineteen years. There is a spare room. It is going to remain a spare room, and I say so at the top because the last two people who answered a post of mine turned out to be mainly interested in the room.
Fifty two, dominant, eighteen years in this, two long arrangements, one of which ran eleven years. I am comfortable, settled, and not going anywhere. That combination attracts a particular kind of message and I have learned to filter for it early.
What I want is a submissive who has their own home, their own income and their own friends, and who wants a serious ongoing arrangement inside a life that already works. Two evenings most weeks, one weekend a month, standing duties in between, and a written outline we revise twice a year.
I am formal inside the arrangement and entirely ordinary outside it. I cook badly and I am opinionated about the radio. The eleven year arrangement ended when she wanted to marry somebody. It was the right decision, I helped her think it through, and I mention it because it says more about how I run these things than any description would.
Not looking for anybody in difficulty who needs somewhere to be. That is a real need and it is not what this is. Not looking for a live in situation, now or later. Not looking for someone who wants to be told what to want.