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Dominants the east of the city, Hamburg

Back after twenty five years away and none of my map works

Posted as twenty_years_abroad

Looking for
a submissive who does not mind that I am starting from nothing socially
Experience
Twenty five years, all of it abroad, none of it here.
Around
the east of the city, Hamburg

I left this city at thirty two and came back at fifty seven, and everything I knew about how any of it works here is a quarter of a century out of date. The people I knew have scattered. The places I would have gone are gone. Socially I am brand new in the city I was born in.

Fifty seven, dominant, east of the city, twenty five years of this in three other countries. My experience is real and my local knowledge is zero, which is an odd combination and has produced some strange conversations.

Something I have noticed already: people here take much longer to warm up than I had remembered, or than I had grown used to elsewhere. Twice I have mistaken northern reserve for disinterest and stopped writing to somebody who was simply taking their time. I am recalibrating and I would rather say so than keep getting it wrong.

What I want is a long arrangement with a submissive woman. Domestic, structured, unhurried. Rules that operate daily, a standing evening, and a review we actually hold rather than intend to. I am formal in writing because I spent decades working in a second language, and it has left me strangely unable to write casually in my own.

Not looking to be shown around, though I will not refuse a recommendation. Not looking for a long correspondence, because I have done most of my life at a distance and I am finished with it. Not looking for anyone who mainly wants to hear about abroad.

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