Autistic, thirty, and I am not going to pick up on your hints
Posted as bad_at_small_talk
- Looking for
- a dominant who says the thing instead of implying it
- Experience
- Five years online, eighteen months in person, one good arrangement.
- Around
- Midtown, Houston
I am autistic. The relevant part for you is that I do not read implication well and I will take almost everything you say literally, which is a feature in this and a problem nearly everywhere else.
What that means in practice. If you want something, say it in words. If I have got something wrong, tell me exactly what and exactly what to do instead. Do not test me to see whether I will guess. I will not guess, and then you will decide I am being defiant, and I will have no idea any of it happened. This has ended two things for me and both times the other person thought I was playing games. The upside is that explicit structure works extremely well on me. Written rules, clear expectations, routine. I do not get bored of the same thing. I get better at it.
Thirty, Houston, submissive, five years of talking about this online and about eighteen months of actually doing it. One arrangement of nine months that was good and ended for ordinary reasons. Sensory things matter. Certain fabrics are a hard no, loud rooms end my evening, and I need to know the plan in advance. None of that is negotiable and all of it is easy to work around once you know about it. I am direct, which some people read as rude. It is not rude. It is simply the whole of what I meant, with nothing hidden underneath it.