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Dominants the west side, Houston

Houston on paper, in an airport most weeks, looking for something that survives

Posted as houston_and_a_suitcase

Looking for
a submissive who does well with distance and written instruction
Experience
Nine years, two long distance dynamics, both of which worked.
Around
the west side, Houston

I am based in Houston and I am there roughly three days a week. The rest of the time I am wherever the client is, which this quarter has meant a lot of hotel rooms in cities I could not describe to you afterwards.

That shapes what I can do, and I would rather lead with it than have you find out in week five that you needed something else. What I can offer is consistency at a distance. Daily contact, tasks that carry across the week, rules that apply whether or not I am in the room. When I am home I am completely present, and the weekends are usually clear. Thirty nine. Dominant for nine years. Both of my long arrangements were partly long distance and both worked, which I think is because the people involved were self directed rather than needy. That is the trait I am actually screening for.

I do not want to be somebody's only source of structure. If you fall apart every time I get on a plane, this will not be fair to either of us. I want somebody who has a life and lets me shape a corner of it. Practically: when I am home I will cross the city on a weekend, and I have done ninety minutes each way twice for somebody worth it. Do not assume the distance is the problem. In my experience the problem is almost always the calendar.

One more thing, because it has bitten me before. If you find a woman with a career threatening, you will discover that around month three and it will come out as small remarks about how often I am away.

Write me something longer than two lines and I will match it.

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