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Submissives Montrose, Houston

Houston sub, and no, I will not be opening with a photograph

Posted as no_photos_first

Looking for
somebody who can hold a conversation before asking me for anything
Experience
Four years, one good dynamic, several instructive mistakes.
Around
Montrose, Houston

Let me save us both an afternoon.

I am not sending a photograph as an opening move. I am not confirming what I look like before you have told me your first name. If your first message is a demand dressed up as a test of my obedience, I am going to laugh at it and then delete it, and I have got very fast at both. Twenty nine. Houston. Four years in, one genuinely good arrangement that ended when he took a job in another state, and a handful of shorter things that taught me what I will not do again.

What I want is not complicated. Someone older than me, with an actual life, who understands that the interesting part of this is learning what makes one specific person tick. I want structure, I want to be held to things, and I want it built over months. The state of my inbox is why this sounds annoyed. Two thirds of it is one line long and half of that is copied and pasted. If you send the same message to thirty people, you are not going to enjoy the way I reply.

I am funny in person. I have simply run out of patience in writing, and I have decided to let that show rather than write another cheerful post that attracts the same forty men. Since it comes up: I am not for hire and there is no arrangement here involving money. I am also not going to be talked into meeting somewhere private the first time, and if that offends you then congratulations, you have identified yourself early.

Ask me something real and I will give you a real answer, at length, probably at too much length.

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