Houston, deaf, and I would rather explain that now than at the door
Posted as paperwork_first
- Looking for
- someone who writes well and does not mind being asked to repeat things
- Experience
- Three years, one short dynamic, a great deal of reading.
- Around
- the Heights, Houston
I am deaf. Not partially, not in one ear. I use a mix of lipreading and text and I do not sign as well as I should, which is a longer story than this post needs.
I am putting it in the first line because leaving it until later makes it a bigger deal than it is. It is a set of logistics, not a tragedy. Here are the logistics. I need light on your face if we are talking. I need you not to turn away mid sentence, which everybody does and nobody notices. I will ask you to repeat things and I would like you to do it without the sigh. Anything voice only is out, which rules out a certain kind of first contact and honestly filters quite usefully.
Thirty three, Houston, submissive, three years in and still fairly new in practice. One dynamic that lasted eight months with a man who was kind and slightly out of his depth, which describes both of us really. What I want is something ongoing and structured, built slowly. I like written rules for the obvious reason. I like being able to reread what I was told at two in the morning.
What I do not want is to be somebody's first encounter with disability as an idea. I have had a few of those conversations and they are exhausting in a particular way.
Otherwise I am ordinary, employed, and much funnier in text than this makes me sound.