Forty five, Houston, and my family is the reason I am careful
Posted as spanish_at_home
- Looking for
- someone who understands discretion about family rather than about work
- Experience
- Twelve years, both roles, almost all with one long term partner.
- Around
- south of Midtown, Houston
Everybody on here talks about discretion as though it is about a boss finding out. Mine is about my mother, my three sisters, and roughly forty cousins, most of whom live within an hour of me.
I love them. I see them constantly. There is no version of my life where I stop, and no version where I explain any of this to them, so I have become very good at compartments. Forty five, Houston. I switch and always have. My marriage included this for years, which was luck rather than planning, and it ended for unrelated reasons. Twelve years of experience, almost all with one person, which means I know one way of doing things well and everything else not at all.
I would like somebody around my own age. People who remember the same decade need less explained to them. Spanish at home growing up, English at work. It matters more than I expected. There are things I can only say in one of them. What I do not want is to be somebody's introduction to their own curiosity while they are still married to a person who does not know. I have been on the wrong side of that and I will not do it again. If you are in that position, work it out with her first, and I mean that kindly.
I am also not looking to be anybody's second family. I have a full one. What I have room for is one person, seen regularly, who understands why I will never bring them to a birthday party and does not treat that as an insult.
Slow is fine. I have been on my own for three years and I am in no rush to be wrong about somebody.