Two of us, eight years in, looking for something that lasts
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- Looking for
- a third or another couple who are not in this for one night
- Experience
- Eight years together, both switching, one long triad behind us.
- Around
- Montrose, Houston
He says I write too much, so I will try to keep this reasonable, and we both know I will fail.
We are two men in Houston, together eight years and married for four of them. We both switch, in different ways: he is a much better top than I am, and I am much better at the other half, so between us we cover the ground. For three years we had a third and it was the happiest arrangement either of us has been in. It ended because he moved for work, and we are all still friendly, which I mention because how a thing ends tells you more than how it starts.
What we are after is that again, or something adjacent to it. It could be one person. It could be another couple who want a slow overlapping friendship rather than a swap. What we are not after is a single evening. We have done that, it is fine, and it is not what we are here for. We are also not looking for somebody who wants one of us and is tolerating the other, which is the most common way this goes wrong and is usually visible within four messages.
Late thirties and mid forties. Both of us have jobs that involve a lot of talking, and a house that is quieter than it should be.
Take your time replying. We are not going anywhere and we have both got very good at waiting.