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Switches the Baltic Triangle, Liverpool

I have been on this board long enough to date posts by the weather

Posted as dated_by_the_weather

Looking for
one person, either way round, who is not just passing through
Experience
Eight years, both sides, nothing longer than fourteen months.
Around
the Baltic Triangle, Liverpool

Somebody posts in February about wanting a fresh start. Somebody posts in June about how quiet it has gone. Come September there is always one very cross post about people who do not reply. I could set a calendar by this board and I have been reading it for eight years, which I accept makes me part of the furniture.

Thirty four, Baltic Triangle, switch, eight years in, and nothing that has lasted beyond about fourteen months.

I am not cynical about it. If anything the opposite, because in that time I have watched two couples meet on here and still be together, and one friendship of mine come out of a first message that went nowhere romantically at all.

What I want is one person. Either direction, decided between us and not by a label, and I am genuinely easy about which. What I am fussy about is that it is not a trial run. I have been somebody's experiment twice and both times it was fine and both times I could feel the clock running.

Not looking for a series of first meetings. Not looking for anybody who is here for three months before they move away for work, which I understand happens and which I cannot do again. Not looking to be anyone's introduction to the whole subject.

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