My ex is somewhere on this board and neither of us is the villain
Posted as my_ex_is_on_here
- Looking for
- one person, and a bit of grace about a small city
- Experience
- Ten years, both sides, one dynamic of four years that ended last year.
- Around
- the city centre, Liverpool
There is a decent chance that whoever reads this knows my ex, and a fair chance you have read her post. We were together four years, it ended last summer, and it ended because two people wanted different things and not because either of us behaved badly. I would like to say that once, here, and then never again.
Thirty two, city centre, switch, ten years in.
What happens in a city this size is that everybody ends up holding a version of your story. I have had two conversations that stalled because somebody had heard something, and one where a very kind man asked me to explain myself before we had ordered. I understand why. I am asking for the small courtesy of hearing it from me if it matters to you.
What I want now is one person and something that lasts. I lead slightly more than I follow. I am a good deal more interested in a long steady thing than in anything intense, which is, if I am honest, the difference that ended the last one.
Not looking to be asked for details about her. Not looking for anybody who is close friends with her, because that is a lot to put on all three of us. Not looking for anything quick, and I am quite happy to spend the summer talking.