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Switches south Liverpool, Liverpool

I would like to teach somebody one thing and be taught another

Posted as teach_and_learn

Looking for
an exchange rather than a hierarchy, with one person over a long time
Experience
Twenty two years, deep in some areas and a complete beginner in others.
Around
south Liverpool, Liverpool

After twenty two years I am extremely good at about three things and know almost nothing about everything else. That is what happens when you spend two decades in a couple of long relationships: you go deep where the two of you went and you never touch anything either of you did not fancy.

Fifty, south Liverpool, switch, and what I want now is an exchange. Somebody I can teach the things I am genuinely good at, who can teach me something they have spent years on. Not a mentorship in either direction, because that sets up a hierarchy neither of us needs. A swap.

I am aware that sounds like a workshop rather than a personal ad. I would like it to be a relationship, or at least a long friendship, and I think this is a good way to build one, because you learn more about somebody from watching them explain something carefully than from any number of dinners.

I am patient, I am not remotely competitive about it, and I am comfortable being bad at things in front of people, which took me until my forties.

Not looking for somebody who wants to be taught everything from scratch, because that is a different arrangement. Not looking for a person who cannot bear to be the beginner. Not looking for anything that needs to be settled quickly.

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