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Switches the Baltic Triangle, Liverpool

I take calls all day for a living, so please do not ring me

Posted as please_do_not_ring_me

Looking for
somebody happy to type until we meet in person
Experience
Five years, both sides, three short things and one good one.
Around
the Baltic Triangle, Liverpool

I spend eight hours a day on a headset being pleasant to strangers who are furious about a bill. By six in the evening the sound of a phone ringing produces something close to a physical reaction, and I have twice had a promising conversation end because the other person insisted a voice call was the only way to know if there was a spark. Thirty, Baltic Triangle, switch, five years in.

I am not antisocial and I am not hiding. I will meet in person early and happily. What I cannot do is the phase in between where somebody wants half an hour on the phone every night, and I have decided to stop treating that as a personal failing.

What I want is one ongoing thing rather than a series. I lead a bit more than I follow. What I actually respond to, in either direction, is somebody who is specific: tell me exactly what you expect and I will either do it properly or tell you why not.

I am funnier in writing than in person, which I am told is a warning.

Not looking for a voice call before we have met. Not looking for someone who wants to talk all day, because I genuinely cannot while I am working. Not looking to be told I will get over it, since it has been five years and a career and I have not.

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