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Dominants the city centre, Liverpool

Three questions before anything else, and I do mean before anything

Posted as three_questions_first

Looking for
a submissive who can answer honestly without performing
Experience
Nine years, three dynamics, two good and one instructive.
Around
the city centre, Liverpool

I ask everybody the same three things and I have stopped apologising for it. What did the last one end over. What is the thing you are worried I will say no to. And who in your life knows you are doing this.

Thirty three, dominant woman, city centre, nine years in. Those questions are not a test and there are no right answers, but the way people handle them tells me almost everything. The third one matters most. If the honest answer is nobody, that is fine and common and I am not judging it, but it changes how carefully we both need to go about this.

What I want is one submissive for something ongoing. I am interested in obedience and structure rather than any particular activity, and my last dynamic ran three years on almost nothing but rules, conversation and a standing Sunday evening.

I am blunt, which people usually enjoy for about a fortnight and then find inconvenient. I do not raise my voice and I do not do silences.

Not looking for anybody who answers those three questions with what they think I want to hear, which I can spot and which is the fastest way to end an exchange. Not looking for anything that has to be secret from every single person in your life forever. Not looking for a man who will send me a paragraph of instructions about how to dominate him.

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