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Dominants south Liverpool, Liverpool

What I care about is how a house is kept, and only that

Posted as standards_in_the_house

Looking for
a service submissive for domestic structure and nothing sexual
Experience
Eighteen years, three service arrangements, no sexual element in any.
Around
south Liverpool, Liverpool

My interest is domestic and it is narrow. How a house is kept. Whether things are done properly, on time, to a standard, without being chased. That is what I want to arrange and there is nothing hidden behind it, which people find hard to believe until they have known me a while.

Forty four, south Liverpool, dominant man, eighteen years in. Three arrangements, none of them sexual, the longest of them six years and it ended when he moved for work and we still speak.

What that looks like: a written list, standing days, a proper handover conversation, and correction that is direct and unpleasant to hear rather than anything physical. I am exacting and I am not cruel, and the difference matters more to me than almost anything else in this.

The people who have been happiest with me wanted to be good at something and wanted somebody to notice. It is not dramatic. Most of it is a quiet Sunday with the radio on and somebody doing the job properly. You keep your own home and your own life. I would insist on it.

Not looking for anything sexual, now or later, and I will not be talked round. Not looking for a live in arrangement. Not looking for anybody who wants to be punished into caring about the work, because either you enjoy doing a thing well or we are both wasting a Sunday.

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