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Dominants the city centre, Liverpool

Dominant, twenty nine, and still very much learning my job

Posted as still_learning_saying_so

Looking for
a submissive who can tell me plainly when I have got it wrong
Experience
Five years leading, one dynamic of two years, plenty still to learn.
Around
the city centre, Liverpool

Five years in and I still get things wrong. Last year I misread somebody badly, kept going when I should have stopped, and only found out afterwards because she was decent enough to tell me. Nothing terrible happened. It could have, and I have thought about it more than she probably realises.

Twenty nine, city centre, dominant woman. I am posting this because most posts from people leading are extremely confident and I do not think that is honest, or at least it is not honest about me.

What I am good at: consistency, planning, and holding a standard without being unpleasant about it. What I am still learning: reading somebody who has gone quiet, and resisting the urge to fill a silence with a decision.

So I would rather have somebody who has done this before and will say plainly when something is off. Not to teach me. To be honest with me, which is a different and rarer thing. I want one submissive, ongoing, and years rather than months.

Not looking for anyone who wants a dominant with all the answers. Not looking for somebody who will agree with everything, which is the single most dangerous thing a person can do with me. Not looking for anything involving money in either direction.

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