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Submissives the city centre, Liverpool

I want the whole thing, including my mum meeting you eventually

Posted as sunday_dinner_eventually

Looking for
a dominant who wants a relationship, not an arrangement
Experience
Five years, three dynamics, all of them kept in a separate box.
Around
the city centre, Liverpool

Three dynamics, all of them lovely, all of them lived in a sealed compartment that nobody else in my life knew existed. And what I have worked out, slowly and a bit reluctantly, is that the compartment is the thing that has made me unhappy rather than any of the people in it.

Twenty nine, city centre, submissive, five years in. I come from a family where everybody meets everybody within about a fortnight, and I have spent five years constructing reasons why nobody was coming to anything.

So I want the whole thing. A relationship, with this inside it, where in six months or a year you are somebody my sister has met and formed an opinion about. Not because anybody needs to know the details, they absolutely do not, but because I am done with a life split in two.

That means I am after a partner rather than an arrangement, and I know that rules out a lot of this board and probably rules out most of what people come here for. Fine. I would rather be clear. I am affectionate, I am a bit much, and I want to be told what to do by somebody who then wants to know how my day was.

Not looking for anything permanently secret. Not looking for someone who is already attached, and I say that without judgement, it is just not for me. Not looking for anything that only exists on a Thursday.

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