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Submissives Wirral, Liverpool

Wirral, and the tunnel is a bigger obstacle than anyone admits

Posted as wrong_side_of_water

Looking for
somebody on my side, or somebody genuinely happy to cross
Experience
Nine years, three dynamics, two of them died of the journey.
Around
Wirral, Liverpool

On paper it is fifteen minutes. In practice it is a decision, and after nine years I can tell you that two of my three dynamics ended because of it. Not dramatically. Just a slow reduction from twice a week to once a fortnight to a message saying we should sort something out soon.

Forty six, Wirral, submissive man, nine years in. I have a house, I can host, and I have a job that finishes at five and stays finished.

So I am posting for somebody on this side, or for somebody in the city who genuinely does not mind coming over and has thought about what that means in January. I am not asking for a promise. I am asking you to be honest with yourself about it now, because I would much rather hear no than watch the same thing happen a fourth time.

What I want is ongoing and fairly domestic. Service, structure, a standing arrangement in the week. I am practical, I fix things, and I am at my best when there is something specific expected of me.

Not looking for occasional evenings. Not looking for anyone who will suggest meeting halfway every time, because there is no halfway, there is a river. Not looking to move any faster than a few conversations and a coffee.

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