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Couples south Liverpool, Liverpool

Both new, both wary, and we would rather admit the second part

Posted as wary_and_saying_so

Looking for
an experienced couple who will not mind being asked awkward questions
Experience
Together five years, about eight months of doing anything at all.
Around
south Liverpool, Liverpool

We have read enough to know that a new couple is exactly the sort of thing certain people go looking for. So we are going to be upfront: we are new, we are interested, and we are also watching for it, and if that offends you then honestly that tells us something useful.

Thirty and twenty nine, south Liverpool, together five years. Eight months ago a conversation happened that neither of us expected and it has changed the shape of our relationship for the better. He is submissive, I am somewhere between curious and quietly delighted, and we have done all of it at home so far.

What we want is to talk to a couple who have been at this a long time. Not to do anything with. To ask the unglamorous questions, the ones the books answer badly. How you negotiate when one of you wants something the other does not. What you got wrong early. What you would tell two people in our position.

If a friendship comes of it we would be made up. If anything else ever did, it would be a long way down the line and only with people we had come to trust properly.

Not looking for anybody who wants to demonstrate anything to us. Not looking for a couple who will address him and talk over me, which has already happened once. Not looking to be anybody's project or anybody's audience.

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