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Dominants the Baltic Triangle, Liverpool

Twenty seven and dominant, which apparently requires an explanation

Posted as younger_than_inbox

Looking for
a submissive who is not going to make my age the whole conversation
Experience
Six years, two dynamics, one of them three years and ongoing until March.
Around
the Baltic Triangle, Liverpool

I get two kinds of message. One is from men twice my age explaining what dominance really means, usually within four lines. The other is from people who think a man my age must be all mouth and no plan. I understand both reactions and I am tired of answering them.

Twenty seven, Baltic Triangle, dominant, six years in. My last dynamic ran three years and ended in March because she took a job in Dublin, and we are still friends, and she would give me a reference if that were a thing people did.

What I actually do is not dramatic. Structure, expectations, a lot of conversation, and a standing arrangement that survives ordinary life. I plan carefully and I do not disappear.

I would honestly rather be with somebody older than me. Most of my experience has been and it suits me, and I have no interest in pretending to an authority I have not got in the rest of my life. I know what I am doing in this. I do not know what I am doing about mortgages.

Not looking for anybody who wants to explain my own orientation to me. Not looking for someone whose interest is that I am young, which is a different thing entirely from not minding. Not looking for anything involving money, which I am asked about with depressing regularity.

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