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Submissives the South Bay, Los Angeles

Fifty eight, submissive, and I do not drive after dark

Posted as daylight_only

Looking for
an afternoon dynamic with somebody whose week has daylight in it
Experience
Twelve years, one long arrangement, four quiet years since.
Around
the South Bay, Los Angeles

My night vision went about six years ago and I made a decision I have not broken since: I do not drive after dark. That single rule has quietly removed me from almost everything, because this entire world runs at nine in the evening.

Fifty eight, the South Bay, submissive, twelve years in. One arrangement that ran six of them and ended when he retired and moved away. Four quiet years since, most of which I spent telling myself I would sort this out later.

What I am asking for is unusual only in its timing. Afternoons. Weekend mornings. A Tuesday at two o'clock. Everything else about what I want is ordinary: service, protocol, a person who holds a standard and tells me plainly when I have fallen below it.

The people it might suit are shift workers, retired people, anyone who works from home, or anybody who has ever thought that meeting at three in the afternoon and still having the evening ahead of you is the better arrangement anyway.

I can host. I live alone in a small place with a garden I am obsessive about. I am punctual, I am tidy, and I am considerably funnier than this post makes me sound. What will not work is somebody who is free only at night and hopes I will make an exception. I will not. It is not stubbornness. It is that I no longer trust myself on a freeway in the dark, and I would rather be dull about it than be a story somebody tells.

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