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Submissives the east side, Los Angeles

Twenty six, no car, and the bus takes two hours each way

Posted as no_car_till_october

Looking for
someone patient with a person who cannot just drive over
Experience
Fourteen months, all of it conversation and one meeting.
Around
the east side, Los Angeles

My car died in February and it is not coming back until I have saved for another one, so for now I am the person on this board who has to check a timetable before agreeing to anything. In this city that is close to a disability and I am not going to pretend otherwise.

Twenty six, the east side, submissive, about fourteen months into knowing what I am. That has been one long conversation with somebody in another state and exactly one meeting in person, which went well and went nowhere, because she was in the South Bay and I could not reliably get there.

What that means for you: if you are on my side of town, or you are somebody who does not mind doing the driving on the understanding that I will make the trip worth it in every way I can, this could work. If you are not, I understand completely.

I am after structure more than anything. Things I do daily, a person who notices whether I did them, expectations that hold up on the days I am tired. I am at my best when somebody is paying attention and my worst when nobody is.

I would rather not hear from anyone who thinks a person without a car has not got their life together. I work five days a week. I am saving. It is just slower than I want it to be, and I am not going to hide it to look more convenient.

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