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Dominants the Valley, Los Angeles

In this since the eighties, and half the words are new to me

Posted as since_the_eighties

Looking for
a submissive who does not need me to speak the current dialect
Experience
Thirty eight years, four long dynamics, one of nineteen.
Around
the Valley, Los Angeles

I started doing this when the only way to find anybody was a printed advertisement in a paper you had to know to buy. Everything about the mechanics has improved and I will not be one of those men who claims otherwise. What has changed less usefully is the vocabulary, which now moves faster than I can follow.

Sixty three, the Valley, dominant, thirty eight years in. Four long dynamics, one of them nineteen years, one partner buried and two others still friends.

I get told, occasionally by people forty years younger than me, that I use the wrong terms. Some of that is fair and I take it. Some of it is a person eight months into the subject explaining my own life back to me, and I have run out of politeness for that particular conversation.

What I want is not complicated. One person, an ongoing arrangement, and time together that is mostly ordinary. I am patient in a way that seems to unsettle people. I do not need to be called anything in particular.

I am not able to be anybody's introduction to the subject and I am not interested in a long correspondence. And if the difference in our years is the interesting part to you, please take that elsewhere. I have had a lifetime of it and it stopped being flattering somewhere in the nineties.

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