Dominant, South Bay, and yes I will send you a document
Posted as the_spec_sheet
- Looking for
- a submissive who finds precision reassuring rather than cold
- Experience
- Eighteen years, two long dynamics, both of them written down.
- Around
- the South Bay, Los Angeles
I have been told twice that my approach to negotiation reads like a hardware specification. Both people meant it as an insult. Both of them also told me later that it was the clearest anybody had ever been with them.
Forty seven, the South Bay, dominant, eighteen years in. I design things for a living that fail badly when the requirements are vague, and I have carried that habit into the rest of my life without much apology.
In practice this means that before anything happens we will have a long written conversation, we will both put our limits in plain words, and there will be a document neither of us finds romantic. It will cover what we are doing, what we are not doing, how either of us stops it, and when we look at it again. I have never had a dynamic go wrong in a way that document did not anticipate.
What I am not is cold once the paperwork is done. People assume the two go together. The precision is exactly what lets me stop thinking about safety and pay attention to the person in front of me.
I want something long. Eighteen months is my idea of a beginning. I have time, a quiet house, and no interest at all in an evening with a stranger. If all of this sounds unromantic, you are right, and we are probably not a match. If you read it and felt relieved, write to me.