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Dominants Villeurbanne, Lyon

Arrived from Marseille two years ago and this city is a locked door

Posted as not_from_here

Looking for
a submissive who will forgive somebody for not knowing anybody
Experience
Eight years, three dynamics, all of them in the south.
Around
Villeurbanne, Lyon

Where I am from, you meet somebody and by the end of the evening you have met four of their friends. Here I had six pleasant conversations that ended in nothing whatsoever, and it took me a year to understand that this was not rejection but simply the speed at which the place runs.

Thirty, dominant, Villeurbanne, moved up for work two years ago. Eight years in this, all of it in the south, where the circle was noisier and considerably less careful about itself.

The thing I have had to learn is that here everybody is quietly checking whether you are a person who will be discreet. Nobody says so. It took a long time to realise that the questions I was being asked were not small talk. Now that I understand it, I have a great deal more respect for it than I did in my first year.

What I want is a long dynamic with a submissive woman. Structure, service, rules that run through an ordinary week, a standing evening. I lead quietly, I plan, and I do not raise my voice. I am also entirely willing to spend three months getting there, which the man who arrived here two years ago would not have been.

Not looking for anyone who wants to hear me compare the two cities, a subject on which I am extremely boring. Not looking to be brought into a group as somebody's find. Not looking for a person whose interest is mainly that I am not from here, which has happened twice and is a strange thing to be.

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