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Couples the east of the city, Lyon

One of us is a doctor here and that decides all of it

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Looking for
friendship with people who will never mention us to anybody
Experience
Six years together, four of them with a dynamic between us.
Around
the east of the city, Lyon

One of us treats patients in this city and could reasonably expect to meet a former patient in any room she walks into. That is not a dramatic risk. It is a constant one, and it has shaped every decision we have made about this for four years.

We are thirty one and thirty three, both women, east of the city, together six years. She leads, I do not, and it has been part of us since the second year.

What we want is friendship with one or two other couples. People we could speak plainly in front of. We have exactly none of that, and it has begun to feel absurd to have something this large in a relationship and nobody at all to mention it to.

The conditions are strict and we would rather set them out than have them emerge as a series of refusals. No photographs. No group of any size. Nothing in a public place in this city, at least at first. And an understanding that if we ever run into each other by accident, we do not know each other, which sounds cold and is simply the arrangement. In exchange we are extremely good company, we cook properly, and we can host, which appears to be the rarest thing on this board.

Not looking for a third. Not looking for anyone who wants to be introduced around. Not looking for people who would find the conditions insulting, because they are not about trust in you. They are about arithmetic in a city this size.

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