No car, and everything I do has to survive the walk back up
Posted as the_long_climb_home
- Looking for
- somebody who understands that the hill is a real constraint
- Experience
- Seven years, two dynamics, both with people at the bottom of the hill.
- Around
- Croix-Rousse, Lyon
I live near the top of the hill and I do not drive. Everything I agree to has to survive the climb home at midnight, and I have learned the hard way that the version of me who is enthusiastic at eight in the evening is not the person doing the stairs at one in the morning.
Thirty eight, submissive, I work nights at a hospital three weeks in four and days in the fourth, which makes me an awkward proposition before we even reach the geography.
What I want is something with a real shape to it. Rules that run daily, a report I owe whether or not I am tired, tasks that are mine. The face to face part can be less frequent than most people want, provided it is fixed, and provided nobody treats a cancellation caused by a shift swap as a personal statement.
Both of my dynamics were with people at the bottom of the hill and both ended in almost the same way. A slow drift caused by nothing except that it was always me making the journey, and eventually I stopped being able to.
So if you are up here, or in the north of the city, say so first and I will admit it moves you up the list. Not looking for anything that begins after ten at night. Not looking for somebody whose answer to all of this is that they would drive me, which is generous and which I have discovered makes me feel like a delivery. Not looking for weekends, which are the only time I see my brother.